Relationships come in as many forms as the mind can imagine, each one as unique as a snowflake (or something less cliché, if you and your partner hate clichés). But regardless of labels or interests or personalities, each healthy relationship has the same qualities in common. Read on and see if you’re as happy as you could be.
Obviously the first criterion that factors into an A+ relationship is good old communication. Now, clearly this one’s an obvious pick and everyone should know the basics, but there’s no harm in a refresher. Good communication means talking and listening to your partner about their life, your life, and your joint life – the good and the bad. Neither of you can grow together or ultimately be happy if you’re scared to talk about the bad as well as the good.
One of the best parts of being in a relationship is that you and your partner have built a world just for the two of you and your interests. Cultivating a healthy relationship means spending one on one time with your partner, and while you could do that over coffee and the weekend paper, why not get adventurous? Road trips, nights out, surprise lunches – keep things interesting and the spark will survive. Being adventurous in the bedroom is also an interesting point… Naughty But Nice certainly have a few products that will liven up your life.
Respecting your significant other is also an undeniable quality that every healthy relationship has. Regardless of how well you know and love a person, there’s going to come a day when you have varying opinions. How you react to that is a sign of your relationship. Football, politics, money, children, reading material, favourite TV shows – the list of things you can disagree about is endless. But at the end of the day respecting someone means agreeing to disagree. Your partner is a whole person, and they deserve your respect.
For some people it’s a hard thing to do, especially if you’ve been let down in the past – but trusting your partner is ultimately a nonnegotiable part of a healthy relationship. You need to believe in what your partner says or does. To disregard this will just make them resent you and your relationship will end up on rocky ground. Breathe, relax, trust each other and you’ll better off.
This point might seem counter intuitive but alone time can save many an unhappy relationship. Despite popular opinion, being in a relationship doesn’t mean you have to spend 24/7 with each other. Unhealthy relationships can occur when you spend so much time and energy on each other and nothing else, that you start to resent each other. That’s why it’s important to equally appreciate the alone time you spend doing things you enjoy. After all, your life existed before they came around.
Healthy relationships are tricky things to master – that’s a given, but hopefully the above five tips have given you a little nudge in the right direction. With a few little changes here and there, you’ll be surprised at the results.