How to Improve Socialization Skills of Homeschooled Children

How to Improve Socialization Skills of Homeschooled Children

swimming with cousins

Go swimming with your child’s cousins

This is an anecdotal guide that we applied on Dindin and we noticed good results. You see, from the very beginning, we intended to homeschool Dindin for a variety of reasons. But many people keep on discouraging us and one of the disadvantages that they told us of is the lack of social skills. Read: Plans to Homeschool Dindin

swimming at home

Don’t be too picky with your child’s playmates. Dindin swims in an inflatable with the nieces of our helper who were on vacation with us. She loved the five days that she spent with them!

Here is a simple guide in improving the socialization skills of your child, homeschooled or not.

1. Remember the word “social”. It means the involvement of other people. Most people think that homeschooling also means cooping children up in the bedroom or the home without giving them social interaction. That should not be the case.

Play date

With Dindin’s friend Gianna and David during a play date.

2. Parents should create opportunities of socialization for their children. We hold play dateswith other families who have little children. We would set aside a date, have a potluck dinner, then we the parents talk while the kids have supervised play time. We would have wanted to do this more often if our schedules allow.

sunday school

Dindin attends Sunday school

3. Make use of existing situations where your child can have associations. For example, there are Sunday School, Children’s Choir, and the once a year DVBS in local churches. As much as we can, we let Dindin attend them. It is just unfortunate that we cannot go every week because we are also busy or can’t wake up early.

family gatherings

We always bring Dindin to family gatherings whether held in homes or at restaurants.

4. Bring your child to social gatherings where they can have social interaction. We do not have a babysitter so we take Dindin to almost every function that she is allowed. While most of the time only the adults are there, there are also occasions when some parents would bring along their kids so Dindin gets to play. During sit-down dinners, we would request for a high chair from the restaurant so Dindin can join in the meal. She gets to interact with both adults and kids alike on different occasions.

birthday party

Enjoying an art activity during a birthday party that we recently attended.

5. Attend kiddie parties. These could be birthday parties, Easter parties, or Christmas parties. It is just so fun because kids get exposed to the colorful decorations, get to join in the games, play with other kids and of course, win prizes! They do not just learn a lot from the exposure, they interact with other kids! What a fun way to learn!

mascot

Dindin is not even afraid of mascots and clowns. In facts, she loves them!

6. Organize outreach activities. These will expose your kids to the “other side” of the society. Let them experience giving to others through these opportunities. Sometimes, when we go to the park, we bring some packed snacks that we give out to the children of the vendors. Then we teach them to put the empty bags inside the waste can.

outreach programs

You can organize a simple outreach program so that you can teach your child the value of sharing as well as giving importance to all kinds of people.

7. Go on outings with other people. A trip to a nature or wildlife reserve would be a highly educational and fun trip for your little ones. Just be prepared with your necessities like mosquito repellents, extra clothes, snacks, and water so that your little ones are comfortable.

Mambukal Resort

Enjoying the scenery at the butterfly garden at Mambukal Resort.

Do these things work? They sure do! At 3 years old, we sent Dindin to summer class and by the time she set foot in the classroom, she totally forgot about me. No crying and no separation anxiety. She was well adjusted and did not have problems with playing with others. She was ready for school.

So homeschooling does not mean that kids will become unsociable or worse, anti-social. It depends upon us parents to open doors of opportunities for them. Now my problem about the homeschool set up is no longer the social issue but rather if I am competent enough to be Dindin’s teacher. hehe

first day in school

Dindin’s first day at Bright Kids as a Junior Camper.

What is separation anxiety?
According to wikipedia.org, “Separation anxiety disorder is a psychological condition in which an individual experiences excessive anxiety regarding separation from home or from people to whom the individual has a strong emotional attachment (e.g. a parent, grandparents, and/or siblings).

5 thoughts on “How to Improve Socialization Skills of Homeschooled Children

  1. Shengkay

    korek mommy..hindi lang sa skol yung socialization..
    ako if i had enough time siguro I will homeschool Iris din..
    Goodluck dindin..

  2. chrisair

    you are really on the good tract exposing your child in these kind of activities can help their values, thanks for the tips I learn alot today

  3. Sammy @ Sugah Momma

    This is great. I wish I have the time to homeschool my little boy as well but I have a lot to attend to, and at the moment, it’s just not possible for me to do so. Salute to you and other moms who are able to successfully homeschool their kids! 🙂

  4. Sumi

    This is really a good read, sis! I don’t have kids yet, and not any time soon, but most of my toddler nieces and nephews show some separation anxiety. Will definitely bookmark your post and show this to my aunts.. 🙂

  5. pilgrim

    This seems to be always the big issue about homeschool–socialization. Homeschool is not about isolating the child from the outside. It is about a completely different education system where the parent is in complete hands on and in control of the child’s education. I believe with homeschool, the child will have the opportunity to much better develop socially since there is flexibility in time. Now he or she can make quality relationships other people than just his or her teacher and classmates.

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